Steve MacAllmury
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"While working with you I didn’t achieve the things I had initially expected to; instead you helped me to build, or rebuild, where I had not planned to.
You, and your community, broke two addictions. Better eating habits were easier to implement than breaking my addiction to work. I didn’t have an “addiction” to overtime; “I can stop any time I want” as the phrase goes, until you challenged me to stop. And then it was HARD.
My working overtime seemed as important to you as you sensed it was for me. That was a new experience. I wanted to pick up some shifts and knew you’d never know…but I would. That agreement became important to me.
I haven’t worked overtime shifts since whenever you boxed me into that agreement; I used to work 2-3, sometimes 4, extra shifts a week.
In 2021 I was gone from home 300 days out of the year, in 2020 almost that many. I’ve been a traveling nurse my whole nursing career…as I write this note, on Monday I’ll be a staff nurse at my LOCAL hospital, 2 miles from home.
There are other factors, but partly due to traveling and partly due to the extra shifts that replaced time I could have been at home, my wife and I don’t know each other anymore and live like roommates. Last year, 2022, working with you as my coach, I’ve been AT HOME more in 2022 than at any time since I became a nurse. There have been several transitions to navigate!
Early in the year I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. Working with you and with my peers in my peer group, I’m down 40lbs in 2022, my blood sugar is well controlled with minimal insulin use, and I have a good grasp on how to look at and evaluate differing “experts” and food choices.
As terrible as you are at saying the things I wanted to hear, you were exceptional at saying exactly what I needed to hear. “Being seen” is supremely uncomfortable for me; when you looked I was surprised that you didn’t flinch. Then surprised again when you drew me out even further…even using my own metaphor against me
Thanks for being my coach, Shelby Kurz.